The Secret to a Happy Marriage

This week, Devin and I celebrated our ten-year anniversary. Wow! Ten years.

When I said “I do,” to him back on April 25, 2002, it was with the conviction that I had found someone who matched me. I knew that being married to this guy would be fun. Of course, it would have its share of ups and downs, like any marriage. Naturally we’d bitch and moan at each other along the way. I knew there would be many things I’d do and say that would bug him – and that there would be many, many (did I say many ?) things he’d do that would seriously nark me. And then there would be all the other regular stuff that would interfere, sneak up, challenge, or freak us out. Like pets, work, no work, children, money, mortgage, fridges, religion, family, schedules and all that.

Of course we love each other. That’s a given. But the secret to what has kept this union sound, light-hearted, reasonable and fun is ….. silliness.

Very early on, I realized that Devin is as silly as I am. What clicked between us – and which has endured through ten years of marriage – is our very natural way of not taking ourselves too seriously. Once when we were dating, he gave me a copy of Dr Seuss’ Cat in the Hat, with his own silly riddle hidden inside. Of late, I’ve taken to secretly doctoring his daily to-do list. Instead of saying goodbye when we speak on the phone, he’s started saying “f@*k off Frank.” No clue why, but it makes me chuckle.

Fortunately for us, our innate and combined silliness was a perfect foundation for raising children. Now we have an audience! Our kids get a huge kick out of us all being silly together – and an even bigger thrill when they watch mama and papa being silly with each other. It’s downright gleeful.

Other couples count on love, respect and teamwork to nurture their relationships. We have that too. But for us, being silly is the cherry on top!

(Post note: I looked up the definition of silly on and was displeased. I much prefer the definitions on Urban Dictionary, check them out!)

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  1. Congratulations! Hope you’ve got something silly planned to celebrate.

    • We had a lovely dinner out. Nothing extra silly because the silliness is Always there to some degree. I did mess with his to do list yesterday … that was fun 😉

  2. Meredith wolff

     /  April 29, 2012

    Hahahahaha…had tothrow the fridge in there!!!

  3. Frank Cioffi

     /  April 25, 2013

    Well, first, congratulations! Second, knowing me as you do, you know I have have a high priority on humor and silliness. But the “F@#k off, Frank” thing makes sense to me, and I wonder if it’s why you laugh so freely at my jokes. Perhaps it’s an inherently funny thing around “Frank” for you. Either way, I’ll take it.

    • Ha! Don’t take it personally tho. As it happens, my husband’s “real” name is Francis so it’s more a play on that 😉

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